With the Royal Wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton and the entire buzz that surrounded this momentous occasion, it’s no wonder that there’s a tangible feel that “love is in the air” and it seems that more people are now looking for their prince/princess. In a recent article, Dating and Relationship Expert April Braswell summed it up perfectly when she wrote that, “When any couple is deeply in love and wedding their true love Soul Mate, then every bride is a princess and her groom her prince.”
Now I’m no dating or relationship expert so I tend to look and think of things in very unique and different ways. One thing I noticed were pictures and videos of the “happy couple” looking, well, not so happy, but I am guessing if I were about to get married in front of the world, I’d be looking pretty stressed out, too. However, seeing the pictures and videos of the “now married” couple, maybe it’s just me, but they looked more vibrant.
That’s Not Unique OR Different … but …
Being single and health conscious, this prompted me to ask the question, “Are there any real health benefits to being in a relationship?”
Plenty of research indicates that marriage and strong relationships have a direct correlation to positive health benefits; for example the U.S. Department of Health and Human services list increased physical and emotional health benefits for a married couple, as well as a decrease in the abuse of alcohol and drugs.
Julianne Holt-Lunstad, an associate professor of psychology at Brigham Young University states that, “Our relationships help us cope with stress, so if we have someone we can turn to for emotional support or advice, that can buffer the negative effects of stress.”
Hugs and Kisses … XOXO
Besides the commonly known facts about the health benefits associated with kissing (lowering blood pressure and reducing stress) the saliva produced during a passionate kiss contains phosphorus and calcium helping to prevent the formation of cavities. The saliva also helps in washing bacteria and germs from the mouth and may help prevent gingivitis.
There are many advantages of a hug, linking such benefits as reduced heart rate, lowering the blood pressure and a general increase in mood. Hugging also stimulates the release of oxytocin or the bonding hormone in the body.
The Need For Each Other … is it urgent?
Dr. Joseph Hullet states, “Human beings are social animals who have biological drives that make them want to find relationships. When they can’t find those unions, they’re punished with stress.” And the research is clear that the lonelier a person is the more likely they are to develop depression, with the loneliest twice as likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease.
To be fair, Dr. Elaine Aron answered the question, “Are there points when being together becomes too stressful that there becomes a health risk to staying together? Her response was, of course, “Definitely. There is considerable research on that.”
Some singles don’t even know what a warm, loving, strong relationship is anymore with the high divorce rate, people just don’t know as many long-lasting marriage relationship examples personally. In fact, many singles, in the face of a rollercoaster of bad relationships in their past, have simply given up on finding that “perfect someone.” However, Braswell says, “If you really want a relationship, everyone really can find love. Don’t look for a perfect mate. Look for someone who is perfect… for you. Keep an open heart and love will find you.”
So while a relationship may not necessarily add years to your life, they can definitely add life to your years. Here’s to finding your Prince/Princess!